GROWING MACHO MEN
---I was listening to a woman speaking on a TEDtalk. She said something I found interesting. The very way that we treat little boys growing up in our society is to ‘’man up, toughen up, don’t be a sissy, real men don’t cry, etc.’’ We teach them that it is NOT alright for a male to cry…to have feelings, to NOT be tough or to make mistakes. If the feeling to cry comes to him, to be a man, he must learn to suppress that feeling and sublimate the feeling into a not crying situation. She said that this statement, this dynamic, is directly responsible for the violence that we are facing in our communities.
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---I am very interested in what she is saying. It supports much of what we have been talking about. There was a saying that she used that I never heard before. She heard a former NFL player use this expression. ‘’Boys who can't cry, shoot bullets.’’
---We certainly can see that one can’t get his needs met if he keeps them so hidden. We have to get our music out while it is still music.
1. People need connection with one another.
2. We are all designed to find our tribe.
3. We all need one person who sees who we are…and loves us UNCONDITIONALLY.
4. Some men believe their manhood or value is in their muscles, money or mojo.
5. Some men wear a mask (not themselves) to protect themselves from shaming or criticism usually from other men.
---Please listen to video yourself BELOW. She makes a lot of sense.
