WE ARE ALL ADDICTED...SOMEWHERE!

 

AVOIDING FACING YOURSELF -
The ''HEAD HONCHO'' 
of ALL ADDICTION!

---The Major Addiction for me was my left-hand. For those who aren’t aware of this: I was born missing four fingers on my left-hand. My learning to deal with how I felt about my hand taught me much of what Leo (below) speaks about in the video. I learned much about ADDICTION and LIFE, ITSELF, in the process.

---Everything that distracts one from facing him/her-self…is the addiction. The substance one addicts himself to is just the distracting tool one uses to do this. By hiding my hand in my pocket, I was addicted to people NOT seeing me as less than perfect. I was addicted to people NOT knowing the real me. After-all, they may not like me if they did.

---To make a long story short…the more one is himself, the more one is quiet within, the more present one is. When one understands what ADDICTION really is, and how it plagues many different aspects of our lives, one can then understand what he, himself, and many others do most of the time. People, for the most part - The ''HEAD HONCHO'' of ALL ADDICTION - AVOID FACING THEMSELVES!

ROOT CAUSE of ALL ADDICTION!

The ''HEAD HONCHO'' 

of ALL ADDICTION!

ABRAHAM MASLOW - ''IMPORTANCE of MEETING HUMAN NEEDS''

  The HUMAN NEEDs of Which People are DEPRIVED!

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---I don’t think folks realize the importance of being appreciated, being valued, loved, supported, cared for, etc. Folks don’t realize that a life without these key elements is like building a structure or a bridge with shoddy material and/or workmanship that won’t be able to withstand the weight and endurance the structure itself will go through during its’ existence. Eventually, it will come crashing down around itself.

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---If we try to build a HUMAN life with shoddy materials and workmanship (the key elements that we spoke of in the last paragraph,) we, also, will be faced with a being who is shattered before his time unable to withstand the hurdles and pitfalls that come his/her way.

---The recipe of life has a healthy portion of the ingredients of love, support, being valued and being appreciated in it. There is NO scrimping on the materials (ingredients) necessary to create a good solid individual able to withstand all that life throws at him or her. Each time he/she interacts with love, being valued and being appreciated…the foundation ITSELF is strengthened and becomes more solid and stronger than it once was.

---Human needs are love, support, being valued and being appreciated. Self-knowledge, self-worth, self-esteem fit in there somewhere, also. If you treat everyone with KINDNESS all-the-time, then I'm sure that you do your part. BUT...herein lies the big rub - If these needs are not met convincingly, then we are usually faced with an individual who is seeking to get these needs met. He seems almost consumed with these needs. Addiction is NOT lurking too far away. When the HUMAN NEEDs are met, he then is ready to move up along Abraham Maslow's pyramid. Be Kind!.

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WHAT IS BEING HEARD + TAKEN SERIOUSLY?

What Is Being Heard + Taken Seriously?

---Let us first state what we think that folks need to be heard and be taken seriously about. I think that most people want to know they are OKAY! That it is okay to be who they are. A simple ‘yes’ may NOT be sufficient. Folks need to be convinced that it is ALRIGHT to be who they are. Of course the answer is ‘yes’…but, it is amazing that when push really comes to shove…how much that FACT is NOT known.

---The unfortunate part that can happen is that one begins to compete + compare himself with his neighbor to discover the answer to this question. He looks AT his neighbor and answers his own question. He answers the question by knowing if he is doing better than the neighbor…or, if he’s a better person than his neighbor. The answer comes in terms of how he is doing compared to his neighbor and is really NOT the answer he is looking for. (It is about doing/being the best you possibly can be.)

---Being convinced that he is heard and taken seriously frees one to then leave that question behind and be secure with who one is. When someone truly knows that it is okay to be himself…NOT just in comparison to others, one begins to enjoy living fully. He no longer needs to prove what he hopes the answer to be…and moves on to enjoy his new found freedom.

---When one is truly heard and taken seriously…he now has more quality in his life. He has been freed from discovering that answer to the dynamic which plagues most people until they answer it. Am I ’GOOD ENOUGH?’ When he is convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that the answer is YES...he will be free. Until then, everything that he does will always have that as part of what he wants to know - am I good enough?

Previously Posted 3/15.