GAMES PEOPLE PLAY - INNER CIRCLE

 

GAMES PEOPLE PLAY - INNER CIRCLE

FACE YOURSELF and AVOID ADDICTION!

 The BIG CHEESE of ADDICTION -

NOT FACING YOURSELF!

FACING YOURSELF BECOMES THE PROCESS of

SELF - ACCEPTANCE!

---The REASON for all addiction is the inability to face ourselves and our alleged shortcomings. If we feel we are doing better than the others, than we may feel we don’t usually have a problem. Actually, we usually have no trouble taking or sharing in the credit for something deemed good. But when we have to face up to something deemed negative that we may find ourselves associated, This is when our heartaches begin.

---Taking credit is not the problem when something positive is happening. The problem will show itself when we become associated with something negative. The problem is not when we face up to what  went down and honestly admit the part that we played in all of it. The problem is that now we have activated the flight response. Fight or Flight? Instead of facing up to the situation...we want to run. When we run, we basically say or do anything that dissociates us with what went down...even when we are caught red-handed with our hand in the cookie jar. RUNNING FROM REALITY, THEN DENYING IT... IS WHERE THE ADDICTION IS BORN!.

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---We RUN. Suddenly, we learn we can involve ourselves with being a bit negative and things that takes us from being in the spotlight and NOT feeling as connected as we once did. We even can learn to face looking negative in the eyes of another, but when we realize that someone has been hurt because of something we’ve done...that can be new territory and hard to swallow. We may find ourselves on a road we are not used to. AND/BUT, NOW we have a new tool (drink, drugs or whatever distraction we use to newly keep us from facing ourselves.) It is fast becoming our crutch to help us run, and RUN WE DO. WE ARE STILL RUNNING FROM FACING OURSELVES...BUT, WITH A CRUTCH THAT WILL NEED REPLACING, SOON!

---Looking bad was never the issue, but now it is. A downward spiral has been introduced. We used to easily avoid this but now we say and/or do anything that prevents ourselves from looking bad. Or, at best REALLY BAD! This new cycle has now become our daily routine. We know that it sucks, but our crutch still eases the tension that is at times...the pain. That is when prison as a possibility can come into play. We get off of the stage as soon as possible. We NOW seem to have trouble telling the truth. Saving face and dishonesty are the norm. Folks hide in the shadows, disguising themselves to NOT be recognized for who they are.

---If we STOP RUNNING at anytime...we do ourselves a great favor. I am NOT going to sugarcoat it and say it is always easy! But it is possible. AND, IT IS ALWAYS REWARDING! This is the path that will lead back HOME, again...maybe for the first time

WE ARE ADDICTED TO RUNNING FROM OURSELVES and NOT FACING UP TO WHAT WE DO. WE DO NOT LIKE TO SHINE IN THIS BAD LIGHT! WE WANT TO SHINE IN A GOOD LIGHT! SADLY, WE SAY/DO ALMOST ANYTHING THAT TAKES THE BLAME OFF OF US and PLACES IT ELSEWHERE...IN THIS SITUATION. LEARN TO FACE YOURSELF...IT TRULY IS MUCH EASIER and FAR MORE REWARDING...EVENTUALLY. THIS IS THE PATH TO THE GOLDEN BUDDHA - WITHIN US ALL!

GOLDEN BUDDHA See ''FINDING JOE'' (BELOW)

WE ARE ALL ADDICTED...SOMEWHERE!

 

AVOIDING FACING YOURSELF -
The ''HEAD HONCHO'' 
of ALL ADDICTION!

---The Major Addiction for me was my left-hand. For those who aren’t aware of this: I was born missing four fingers on my left-hand. My learning to deal with how I felt about my hand taught me much of what Leo (below) speaks about in the video. I learned much about ADDICTION and LIFE, ITSELF, in the process.

---Everything that distracts one from facing him/her-self…is the addiction. The substance one addicts himself to is just the distracting tool one uses to do this. By hiding my hand in my pocket, I was addicted to people NOT seeing me as less than perfect. I was addicted to people NOT knowing the real me. After-all, they may not like me if they did.

---To make a long story short…the more one is himself, the more one is quiet within, the more present one is. When one understands what ADDICTION really is, and how it plagues many different aspects of our lives, one can then understand what he, himself, and many others do most of the time. People, for the most part - The ''HEAD HONCHO'' of ALL ADDICTION - AVOID FACING THEMSELVES!

ROOT CAUSE of ALL ADDICTION!

The ''HEAD HONCHO'' 

of ALL ADDICTION!

ABRAHAM MASLOW - ''IMPORTANCE of MEETING HUMAN NEEDS''

  The HUMAN NEEDs of Which People are DEPRIVED!

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---I don’t think folks realize the importance of being appreciated, being valued, loved, supported, cared for, etc. Folks don’t realize that a life without these key elements is like building a structure or a bridge with shoddy material and/or workmanship that won’t be able to withstand the weight and endurance the structure itself will go through during its’ existence. Eventually, it will come crashing down around itself.

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---If we try to build a HUMAN life with shoddy materials and workmanship (the key elements that we spoke of in the last paragraph,) we, also, will be faced with a being who is shattered before his time unable to withstand the hurdles and pitfalls that come his/her way.

---The recipe of life has a healthy portion of the ingredients of love, support, being valued and being appreciated in it. There is NO scrimping on the materials (ingredients) necessary to create a good solid individual able to withstand all that life throws at him or her. Each time he/she interacts with love, being valued and being appreciated…the foundation ITSELF is strengthened and becomes more solid and stronger than it once was.

---Human needs are love, support, being valued and being appreciated. Self-knowledge, self-worth, self-esteem fit in there somewhere, also. If you treat everyone with KINDNESS all-the-time, then I'm sure that you do your part. BUT...herein lies the big rub - If these needs are not met convincingly, then we are usually faced with an individual who is seeking to get these needs met. He seems almost consumed with these needs. Addiction is NOT lurking too far away. When the HUMAN NEEDs are met, he then is ready to move up along Abraham Maslow's pyramid. Be Kind!.

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WHAT IS BEING HEARD + TAKEN SERIOUSLY?

What Is Being Heard + Taken Seriously?

---Let us first state what we think that folks need to be heard and be taken seriously about. I think that most people want to know they are OKAY! That it is okay to be who they are. A simple ‘yes’ may NOT be sufficient. Folks need to be convinced that it is ALRIGHT to be who they are. Of course the answer is ‘yes’…but, it is amazing that when push really comes to shove…how much that FACT is NOT known.

---The unfortunate part that can happen is that one begins to compete + compare himself with his neighbor to discover the answer to this question. He looks AT his neighbor and answers his own question. He answers the question by knowing if he is doing better than the neighbor…or, if he’s a better person than his neighbor. The answer comes in terms of how he is doing compared to his neighbor and is really NOT the answer he is looking for. (It is about doing/being the best you possibly can be.)

---Being convinced that he is heard and taken seriously frees one to then leave that question behind and be secure with who one is. When someone truly knows that it is okay to be himself…NOT just in comparison to others, one begins to enjoy living fully. He no longer needs to prove what he hopes the answer to be…and moves on to enjoy his new found freedom.

---When one is truly heard and taken seriously…he now has more quality in his life. He has been freed from discovering that answer to the dynamic which plagues most people until they answer it. Am I ’GOOD ENOUGH?’ When he is convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that the answer is YES...he will be free. Until then, everything that he does will always have that as part of what he wants to know - am I good enough?

Previously Posted 3/15.

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